Sunday, 27 March 2016

Music on Sunday; Time

It's  not only Easter but also Daylightsavings has started again. Most people who know me also know that I really hate that. I am a morning person so I wake up early and go to bed relatively early. My biological clock won't switch times. So for today's Music on Sunday it's all about time; Enjoy;

© KH

Wednesday, 23 March 2016

Don't give in to fear

The world is a scary place. As a child I always was safe, protected by my loving parents, nothing could harm me. They would always have my back. Of course I saw things on the news of the world outside my home which were troublesome and things to worry about. Sometimes my own world wasn't even that happy; I got bullied as a teen. Mum said I could also be down from time to time, sometimes I still am but don't we all have things in our lives that can bring us down?
But all in all I had a happy childhood. I even thought I was having a happy life with (now) ex as well after I moved out my parent's home. I married, got two boys and life was good for a while. Until it wasn't anymore.

It is all behind me and I have moved on but the thing is, should you move on from things that hurt you without a glance back? Or can you look back from time to time and think about it? Shouldn't you just learn from your history by looking back?
First I felt protected by my parents, later ex, now I'm the parent who needs to do the protecting. I can't help but feel pretty helpless in this nasty world. With these terrorist attacks going on I can't help but feel helpless if the boys go to parties and festivals. What if... ? I know you can't live your life that way. Those cowardice acts from people who are fighting a battle they themselves have lost sight off I imagine can't determine how I am to live my daily life. I will not live in fear because of it. I will not be angry at the world or at people for it. I will not live in hate like some people in this world do.

Some people were yelling to close borders on Social Media yesterday, or that all Islam should be stopped. Those people are ignorant and really have to look back at history.
I feel for Muslims these days who don't have anything to do with terrorism and who need to be afraid to live in this world. They get the blame too when they don't have anything to do with it. In my town alone the Syrian refugees who got a permit to stay and a house to stay in need to fear for their lives. Their neighbours have thrown stones into the windows of the house wrecking it, saying they have different morals and values. Well, throwing stones wrecking a place is a nice way of showing that.

I fear for this world we're living in. Some right extremists are yelling hate which other people who don't think for themselves will repeat. You only have to switch on the news to follow the American elections, or in our own country where the right winged people scream too to close the borders.
Closing a society is exactly what IS wants! Why are we doing just that? We need to go on with our lives, not give in to terrorism!

Spread love, not hate! It still is one round planet we all share.
One people, one planet!

© KH

Sunday, 20 March 2016

Music on Sunday; Be Yourself

As I was standing in front of my closet today wondering what I should wear for visiting family; I was again doubting myself; wondering if I was ever going to learn to just be myself. If myself was ever going to be good enough. Not only for myself but for my family as well. They say it is but when I'm there I get remarks like; don't talk so loud, don't laugh so hard, you can be yourself but not so much of yourself, tone it down a bit. How am I ever going to be confident enough when I get comments like that from the people I love the most? If they who know me the best don't even think I'm good as I am....

So today for this Music on Sunday music about being yourself; for a boost for myself and all those who feel like that as well.

© KH

Sunday, 13 March 2016

Tuesday, 8 March 2016

Being Social on Social Media

There used to be a time or at least that is my perception of it; that our country (the Netherlands) was a tolerant country. We were known for our tolerance world wide even. Nowadays with the refugee crisis and social media you really think we've all been the total opposite and not only we Dutch, the whole world is behaving like madmen especially on Social Media! Why is it that when it comes to 'being social' people are the most unsocial they can get?

I am using Facebook and Twitter and of course my blog. I have found online friends via Twitter and other social media that I would never have found elsewhere. I can really say it's my social boost of each day. Every day I talk to my friends on Twitter from all over the world. I have even met some of them in real life and they have become the best of friends. Even my hub I met online through a forum. Nothing wrong with that.
But I have seen a lot of comments from people who think they just are allowed to say just about anything just because they don't tweet/post under their own name.
Shouldn't there be some sort of Social Media etiquette on how to behave? I think you should have proper manners just as in real life where you don't go and call every one names as well but perhaps that's just me.

The same applies for what you put on your Social Media accounts like Facebook or Twitter under your real name. What if you post your silly holiday pictures drunk as a skunk and apply for that dream job a year later? What do you think your boss is going to do before hiring your? Right, he is going to Facebook and Google you! What does he see? The drunk pictures. Goodbye dream job!
Yesterday there was an item on the news here about a mum in England who was angry about her 12 year old son who had bullied a girl at school. She had put her anger about it on Facebook tagging her son for the world to see and doesn't think there is anything wrong with it. But what if he is older and wants that dream job and his future boss Facebooks him? Thank you mum for not handling it yourself but thinking the world had to see all that!

Social Media is meant to be social, or as the Dictionary says it; Social - Relating to or designed for activities in which people meet each other for pleasure.
Pleasure people! Not knocking eachother about verbally!
Some actors or singers have even suspended their accounts because of the harasments.
I hate bullying; this is just grown ups bullying on Social media just because they are anonymous.

Let's all make this world a bit better starting with ourselves. If you don't have anything nice to say; don't say anything at all.

© KH

Sunday, 6 March 2016

Music on Sunday; change

Going further with a themed Music on Sunday; this week songs about change. Enjoy;

© KH

Thursday, 3 March 2016

Changing your mindset

In rough times you tend to overthink things, or at least I do that. Which is not healthy for mind and body. You are constantly thinking about what is going wrong in your life, what could go better or worse compare your life with others. 

But is it helpful, does that change your situation? If it cannot be changed why worry over it. Change it or stop the negative thinking, in short let go of the negative feelings and thinking. I'm sure it's much easier said than done. We often are our worst enemies. We have a problem and in our mind we make it much worse than it acctually is. A problem is only a problem if you make it so, when you think it is. Most times it is a lesson to be learned.
By wanting to change things you most times need to change yourself first. When we make changes in ourselves, our circumstances change too. 

Everything happens for a reason; I am a firm believer of that. Plus nothing will go away before you have learned from it. You can ignore it but it will keep coming back until you have learned.
If you don't get what you wanted most times it means it wasn't meant for you and that something else is. That probably something better was on it's way for you. 

We have to be grateful and be in the present moment. Enjoy the present, don't live in the past or the future. You can enjoy the little things in life and be grateful for them.
How hard you find your life; try to experience joy in your life as well. Try to have a good time once in a while. Enjoy yourself. 

Don't compare yourself to others; Yes there are people who have it better but there are also millions of people who have it worse than yourself!
You are not a victim, only of your own thoughts and actions. Know that you can overcome your difficulties. Start by changing your thoughts. By changing your mindset you can begin a change in your whole life. Nothing lasts forever, so 'this too shall pass' is not only a saying. It will pass. Trust in that! Believe you can overcome it and work on it. 

© KH