Yesterday while I was working the woman I was working at put on the tv and I heard someone say this phrase above. It got me thinking; it is true you know. I know from my mum who was very unhappy when I was at my worst and of course from my own experiences with my kids. You can cut that umbilical cord but the emotional cord will not sever.
The moment your child how old they may be, is in pain, stress or is sad you are too. You ponder about what you can do to help him, or how it could have come to this.
You try not to but you do, you can't help it; that's being a mother too I guess.
Although I wouldn't go as far as Philip Larkin in his famous poem, I may sometimes understand how some may think like that (after all he does have a point) but I wouldn't trade them for anything in the world!
But perhaps my boys do think like him; they both say they don't want kids later. (they are 22 and 20 so still young) It's not something I did or didn't do but more the world today. It's damn scary to bring up a child in this world. I get it. But without those two who would I be ?
This Be The Verse
They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.
But they were fucked up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another's throats.
Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don't have any kids yourself.